Summer means the kids are out of school and likely spending more time at home with you. For many parents, the new routine makes us happy in some ways and not-so-happy in other ways, because let’s face it – while summer can be a lot of fun for kids, it’s also a lot of work when you’re a parent! If you’re going to successfully make it to August, you’ll need breaks where you get time alone with your spouse or significant other.
You don’t have to make it complicated, but you will need to be deliberate about carving out time for each other. Here are some easy ways you can squeeze in some alone time together during the busy, kid-filled summer months.
Tips for Finding Time for Your Spouse this Summer
- Try sending the kids outside while the two of you chat or cook dinner together.
- Make plans to sit out on the deck or porch after the kids go to bed.
- Ask kids to play on their own for 30 minutes while you and your spouse catch up after getting home from work.
- Hire a babysitter on a Saturday and go on a day date with your spouse – enjoy a bike ride, lunch at your favorite cafe or a picnic on the beach, just the two of you.
You don’t need to feel bad about letting your kids see you prioritize time together. After all, spending quality time with your spouse will help create an enjoyable environment for your children … It will also help you arrive in August feeling well connected to both your kids and your spouse!
Jean Holthaus, LISW is a Licensed Independent Social Worker and clinic manager at the Pine Rest Pella Clinic. She earned a BA in Elementary Education from the University of Northern Iowa and a Masters of Social Work from the University of Iowa in 1995.