By now through working recovery steps one through three, we’ve admitted complete powerlessness over our addiction, solidified our relationship with our higher power and made the decision to surrender our will and life to that higher power. These steps are the foundation of 12-step recovery programs. We must cling to them as we move into the uncharted waters ahead.
What is Step Four?
Step Four states, “We made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.” But what does this mean? Essentially, it involves looking inward rather than outward for the changes we need in our lives. This step helps us unpack the baggage we’ve been carrying and bring it to light to be dealt with. It allows us to grow, accept responsibility, and take action to change what needs changing.
Have Courage
One of the key principles behind Step Four is courage because facing the accumulated wreckage of our addiction can be incredibly challenging. Don’t take this step lightly; it requires us to be very honest and very forthcoming with ourselves. Anything we withhold could potentially lead us back to our addiction if not properly addressed.
Honesty and Humility
Another vital principle behind this step is honesty and humility. We dive deep into ourselves to examine our role in various situations and essentially “clean house.” Unfortunately, there’s no easy way to work this step because it’s meant to be rigorous. Luckily though, it can be done over a period of time and in small doses.
Step Four is divided into three sections: resentment, fear and the sex list. Each section helps us understand our part, what were our intentions, and the driving forces behind our actions. It’s strongly recommended to work through this step with a sponsor, who can guide us on this journey.
Embracing the Journey
This journey can be daunting, but it’s only as scary as we make it. We’ve all done things in addiction we’re not proud of, but holding onto these things prevents us from truly healing.
Step Four allows us to take action and start the work, seeking help from our higher power as we take our inventory. The more honest we are, the more healing we achieve. Remember, secrets keep us sick, and doing half the work won’t allow us to live in full-time sobriety. Let go, forgive, and let God.
