Verbal De-escalation: Responding To Anger From Those Impacted By High Stress
During high stress situations, people are afraid, uncertain, frustrated, exhausted and angry. Bob VandePol, MSW, reviews how to verbally de-escalate anger.
How to Check Your Impulses Using DBT
When in a stressful situation, we may feel an urge to say something, to do something, to feel something, to think something. Many times these impulsive urges nudge us towards action, language, feelings or thoughts that are not effective, healthy...
Building and Maintaining Healthy Relationships When You Experience Intense Emotions
According to the National Institutes of Health (NIH), people who struggle with emotion dysregulation or Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) experience symptoms and behaviors that often challenge their ability to make and keep healthy relationships. Borderline Personality Disorder symptoms can include:…
Deep Breathing Techniques: An Exercise in Calming and Prayer
When we feel stress and anxiety, two effective ways for bringing relief are breathing and prayer. For centuries, faith traditions have combined these two common, everyday human actions as a means for caring for oneself and getting through tense times….
Strategies for Controlling Your Anger
Wrath, fury, rage — whatever you call it, anger is a powerful emotion. Unfortunately, it’s often an unhelpful one. Anger is a natural human experience, and sometimes there are valid reasons to get mad like feeling hurt by something someone...
Tips for Calming an Angry Person
By Bob VandePol, MSW When somebody loses their temper with us, our natural defensive tendency is to match their intensity and become offensive also, which usually serves to only pour gasoline onto the fire. Although counter-intuitive, a calm, measured response...
Deciphering Anger: What It’s Trying to Tell You
Anger is a universal emotion—everyone feels it at different times and to varying degrees. Anger arises in many contexts and the experience ranges from mild irritation (often referred to as “frustration” by women since culture doesn’t like angry women) to…
Addressing Teen Dating Violence
April 4-8, 2016 is National Youth Violence Prevention Week. When you think of dating violence, the images that pop into your head are probably not images of 11 or 12 year olds. However, teen dating violence is epidemic at both...